Real men don't do this. period. Men that, 1. are fearful and run, are cowards. 2. Men that need to be the main attraction or think that their unborn children will detract from their "status" as the husband and will encroach upon their "attention" are immature and need to grow up.

Also there are plenty of women that have these same problems, only you can't "run" from the baby inside of you. My first wife all but passed the newborn daughter of ours (now 21 yrs old) on me the day she was born. They never bonded and she never really showed much signs of wanting the whole motherly thing.

2nd wife has left the state and left our boys with me. While claiming "victim of life" status... she uses that excuse time and again for why she doesn't spend time with them and now is not even within visiting distance.

I'm not a mysogynist, please do not get me wrong. There are plenty of great women out there that are not like this but I use this example to offset the fact that yes, there are "boys" out there that pretend to be men until they are faced with responsibility like fatherhood. it's sad but true but there are also "little girls" out there that want anything but to face the responsibility of motherhood either. Lots of single dads out there as a result.

I'm just sayin...

The way the OP's guy is acting is wrong but he's an individual case and that's how people ought to look at this. Saying "men do this" or even 'some" as you have pointed out, is almost making an excuse like "because he's male." but that's bullsht. I am a male and I find that lame, and I don't care who you are, if you're a man and you help to make a baby, you run, and abandon the mother, you need to step up to the plate.