My boyfriend, for 17 months, and I moved in together in January of this year. He has 2 teenage daughters, 16 & 19, that live with us every other week and a son, 21, that lives in one of his rent houses. Which by the way pays no bills, but he does however work so that’s a plus. I have 2 sons, 20 & 24 that currently live in one of my rent houses and they DO pay rent and utilities. I help them both out from time to time, needed, with cell phones and such. My boyfriend seems to hate my oldest son for some reason or another. Says he’s worthless and a piece of crap. Didn’t even know he felt this way until this past weekend. So here’s my story:
My son and his girlfriend got into an argument at our house. My boyfriend and I came outside to see what was going on and my boyfriend sided with my sons girlfriend telling my son to leave. Mind you, he rode there in the car with his girlfriend so did not have a way back home except for foot. Nonetheless, my son told his girlfriend that he wasn’t walking and that she needed to take him home. She said no then they started arguing again. My boyfriend stepped in front of my son and pushed him to the ground. A few choice words were spoken and then my boyfriend literally took him to the ground and started choking him. My son never once hit him or put his hands on him not even when they were on the ground. My boyfriend finally let him up and then did it again, out of a fit of rage I’m assuming. Bottom line is now my boyfriend says my son can never return to the house. I am torn between loving him, cause he does treat me like a queen, and not alienating my son from my OWN HOUSE. I don’t own the house so there’s not much I can do I presume. The holidays are not upon us and I will have to be without my boyfriend and go and be with my 2 sons instead as I am NOT going to make them spend it by themselves for no reason. Oh, and by the way, their father is not in the picture and we have no family here so I’m the only family they have. Am I wrong for thinking this way? I told my boyfriend that I was going to move out because I cannot live with my son not being able to come to my house; especially for the holidays. I don’t want this to happen but not sure what else to do. I’m confused and at my wits end. Please help!