The Good Must outweigh the Bad.

One thing, that's irked me, is the notion that children of abuse, grow up to become abusers, themselves. As if, the cycle cannot be broken, as though, we can't learn from our pains and try to the best to our abilities, to ensure, that we don't turn around and cause harm to our children, like we've been harmed. There's so much pop-literature in 'perfect parenting', that it's mind boggling, then in mom guilt, you begin to berate yourself, for not holding it all together, if you display any semblance of anger towards your child, because, g-d forbid, their little psyches, according to this lit, says, it will damage their self esteem and on and on and on. Wha?~! So, you can be a loving parent, but if you 'raise your voice', damage is now guaranteed to be 'irreparable'? Maybe, it's time, for cutting some slack!

So, in a discussion, I concluded that the reality is, the Good (days) Must Outweigh the Bad(less days, more moments).

Yes, I, come from a broken home. Yes, there's been abuse and neglect. It was a sad decision, realizing that I couldn't raise my children within a broken marriage, so now they are raised in a broken home. But, looking back, I actually learned many things about life because of my stepparents. Sure, there were some not so pleasant aspects about them. Sure, my parents, really probably could have worked things out. Theirs wasn't the type of marriage, that I lived through. Yes, my parents, on my mom's death bed, expressed regret. And, maybe, I am digressing right now. Because, it's hard parenting. Some people, it could be a biological predisposition, are destined to be a bit rebellious. But what matters, when it comes to the end of the day, as the teens become adults with their own children, do they love you? Do you love them?

And, as far as housework....OY!!!! I get ahead, I fall behind, I get ahead, I slide real far down, then I get ahead. Start small. If it means, making sure you tidy the kitchen table at night, every night, until it's routine, then create a new routine, as you try to catch up on everything else, under the sun, then at least you will have one small little routine, to begin with.