Thanks for you posts and support. The time apart has provided me with time to think about the relationship and I feel that given everything that has happened I am far better off being on my own with the baby and family support.

The relationship I had with my ex partner behaving so immaturely would have to change and I think he has worked this out for himself and has chosen his path in life as he cannot face this change.

I feel upon reflection he has behaved throughout the relationship like a teenager and it will be far easier to bring up our daughter (day to day) by myself with the support of family and friends. I have been providing all emotional, financial and biopsychosocial support and it has been a huge strain providing it for him and myself and my children.

He has my number, as do his family. I will no longer continue to chase him or them into enquiring about their daughter/grandchild.......if they want to know then they can contact me to find out. If they don't then that is their choice.

If they want contact with their daughter/grandchild then I will never deny them that however, I will not have him dip in and out of her life when he feels like.......he can make an application through the court for regular contact that he can continue and that will demonstrate his commitment to sticking to it.

The financial side of things I will take through the CSA - child support agency. It is unlikely that he will provide financially anything at all given his employment history and he will probably be on government benefits and not able to pay hardly anything at all.

I would put him on the childs birth certificate however he would have to be present to do that and I really do not think that he will make any face to face contact with me whatsoever. He can dispute that he is not the parent of the child with the CSA to get out of paying however, they will carry out a DNA test and bill him for it anyway.

I have no doubts he is her father whatsoever.

Feeling much clearer today and optimistic about the future.......many thanks again for your continued support.......big hugs to everyone.....x