It would be so much easier for me if it went that way, that i 'decide' what we buy and what not. Especially some 'older' alters are always have been able to buy what they want, and they did, and sometimes still do. We are working on that now. I've always found things in the house that i could not remember that i had bought it. If I find that kind of stuff, I know it 'belongs' to someone. I find it difficult because the money could be spent better on things that we need, but it also learns me more about the others.

What i bought as 'gifts' are children's books. What i already bought for myself before i was aware of the others. Only now I know that the little ones enjoy the books also.

For me it would be a good thing, that we buy things in consultation. If parts ask for a present i think Its good and see it as a positive step to acknowledge everyone. And also to work together.