What this author is not talking about is the "whys" that are behind these "unhealthy habits".

We live in a world where so much of our value is determined by whatever society we grow up in. What someone should look like and how quickly someone learns or achieves according to some kind of regimented system set in place is constantly "graded but very unrealistic", also what is considered "a good life, a successful life, a worthy life" is often discussed where if someone doesn't quite fit into that picture they feel they have failed somehow.

Within moments of being born human beings cry out, "hear me and keep me warm and safe". How each person progresses from there depends on how well they continue to be heard and are allowed to understand "being safe" takes shape.

Pointing out some of the ways that certain people fail to learn how to "engage life with vigor and purpose" is not so hard to do. What is more important is understanding "why" this takes place and "how" to address it so that people can understand it and gain the skills to correct these negative patterns where they can realize more positive ways to engage their lives. Also this is going to be something that is "unique to each person" because the truth is we are all unique and there is no one size fits all. And we are really just only beginning to understand this as we keep learning about the human brain and how to best identify our uniqueness so we can nurture the qualities that are with in each of us.