Don't let yourself be used this way. Worthit is right. You can get your selfesteem back but not until you break the hold he has on you. You need to accept that he does not want to change and you can't make him. You owe it to yourself to get out of this abusive relationship.
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Bipolar I, Depression, GAD Meds: Zoloft, Zyprexa, Ritalin
"Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most." -Buddha