((ouch))
Find another doc and therapist. It is your choice about meds. If you don't want to take them then don't. But do find a therapist who shares your feelings about taking meds. Start calling psychologists listed in your phone book and ask a few questions about what is important to to you (specialty, hours available, how they feel on the meds issue, etc.); then set up a couple of appointments and see who you like.
You are in control. Not your diagnosis and not your doctor. This is about you.
I think your doctor was very unprofessional in her treatment of you; it sounds like she has her own issues that prevented her from being supportive and helpful to you.
ECHOES