Thanks Hannabee........I am finding it difficult to get any information or answers to my questions......its very difficult to talk to his dad he just gives enough to let you know but no more that that......he is supposed to be coming down on thursday to collect his sons things......my mother and sister will be here and I feel it would be beneficial to invite him and and try and find out exactly what has been going on and what is to happen now.

I have been living with their son for the past two years my mother and sister have seen and spent more time with their son than they have.....so it is not unreasonable to expect some clear and honest answers.

I am angry as it was me and my mother that went up to his flat on the wednesday......after my partner did not come see me on the monday.......his mother had said she had been calling him and texting him but no answer......the father had gone out for the evening for a pub quiz and yet his mother said they were concerned about him .....so concerned that they let me at 8 months pregnant go up to his flat at 10.30pm at night with my mother......and I told his mum that I was going up there to make sure he hadn't done anything silly.

Its like I said in my previous postings ....if you were that concerned about your son you would not let him return to his flat like that alone or go stay with friends....you would ask him to stay with you at your home.

Sadly the mother I feel is just like the father not telling anything but the bare minimum......they must have known he wasn't staying with friends locally so why tell me that......but where is he staying as they said he had not been hospitalised......and why did they not tell me sooner......???

I don't understand the fixation with his key .....he won't stay in the flat....he hates it ....he told me it holds too many bad memories for him. He has keys himself that he could give his father to use???

Its like he is saying I am hurting and I am trying to hurt you by taking keys, clothes and no contact.

If that was case then why tell me ....the last thing he said to me was that he loved me and the baby.......I just don't understand any of it.......I don't understand them???

His mother has mental health problems and she leaves the home very rarely......doesn't answer the telephone if she is having a bad day.......maybe its a familiar thing???

I don't understand it all.....I said that If he was honest with me we could work it out and work through it all.....arranged for him to come see me on the monday......do I just take it that he wants it over.....after all he refuses contact.....wants his key and belongings.....doesn't appear to care enough to even pick up a telephone to see how I am........is this a ploy by him to get us all worrying about him and chasing after him again for him to just throw it back in our faces and refuse any contact???

I am sick of it all....its so emotional......my emotions are all over the place and I think its wrong .....wrong for the baby....I fear that if I continue I am likely to face a nervous breakdown myself .......however, I can't do that as I have baby and other children and responsibilities to take care of......x