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Originally Posted by yellowfrog268
My 14 year old was recently diagnosed with ADHD, inattentive type.
She continues to rely upon me for managing her life.
Now that she's 14, I expected that she would have become more independent.
I have to tell her to take a shower, brush her teeth, etc.
I have to remind her to be ready on time whether it's for schoJol or other activities. It's like she doesn't think for herself, instead she just waits for instructions on what to do.
What's worse, she shows very little interest in trying to help herself.
I've talked to her about using different time management systems. I've talked to her about using lists or using her android phone to remind herself of important things.
People have told me to let her learn from experience, let her fall a few times and she will learn. Problem is, she has fallen, several times and she still hasn't learned. Also, reward/punishment has not worked.
I worry about what kind of a future she will have as an adult.
I don't know if this is her ADHD or something else.
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Someone that has been thru this personally...I was ur daughter minus the ADHD recommendation. I finally got diagnosed with it now at 35. All I can see is enabling behavior here on both parts. I understand you want your daughter to succeed and do well but she sees it as she won't ever have to try because you will make sure it happens. It's important like others replied you let her fall a few times. Now as a parent myself...I see how hard that is. But I've had to do the same and it hurt me...but after a few times my kids realized if they care about it then they will do it. Good luck. But you should trust in that you raised her right and if she really does want something...she will do it.