I will give my honest opinion as I have not honestly read all of the other replies, I did read up to the one that said, "You did the right thing by moving out" ???

Did they not read? Anywho...

Any man who puts their hands on your SON, is NOT A MAN.
I'm sure he treats you like a queen, or so you say. But if that's the case, he's a fraud!

A man who treats you like a queen, will treat you with respect. Putting his hands on your son is NOT respect. He apparently had some built up rage against your son, and who knows if he will do this to your other son, you, or anyone else. Us woman make up all these wonderful excuses because we don't want to be alone.

Well, being alone is a hell of a lot better than being abused.

It would be a cold day in hell before I chose another man over my own child. Can you imagine how your son will feel?? That is a major betrayal and you will be setting a very bad example to your children.

Please be strong, stand up for yourself and your children. There's something more to this picture than meets the eye. This guy needs to go. I understand he treats you in a way that you beleive is acceptable, but really? Even you said so yourself that his own son does not pay his own bills, etc. Would you see yourself hitting his children, and what would he do?

Be smart, and don't stay with someone like that, that makes you look weak and will wreak havoc on your self esteem in the long run, not to mention your sons.

Best of Luck