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Originally Posted by PeachCream22
YES...similar thing is happening to me. Thank you so much for sharing. Makes me feel not so alone. How did you cope with it?  What happened to the both of you? What did you do in the end? |
I'm trying to recall, the exact year of the break up. (it get's a little yo-yo'ey, even with the break up
) Break up occurs, over spring break. He disappeared for the week, no contact. I remember, trying to find out, where did he disappear to. Comes home, shoots me off an e-mail. Had gone, for the week, to visit a girl, at another school. He and I did not attend the same college. I recall, visiting him, during his finals week, as my stepgrandmother lived in the same town, that he went to school at, and I was visiting family. Guess, who typed up, all this papers. Can learn much, typing and editing as you go along, he was dx's with dyslexia, at some point at the end of HS.
Was invited to his graduation, even attended with his dad, grandmother and new gf. We were supposed to be bffs, on top of it all.
The breakup itself, I recall crying for days. Still had to work and study and function. At some point, he travelled abroad, to Japan, to finish a class. At that point, I was already, working, and out of school. He had a delay, in graduating, if I recall. He had to take some time off from school, to deal with the ailing health of his father. I met someone, while he was abroad. He became engaged. His dad passed away, before I even graduated. I attended the funeral. My stepfather, had ailing health, and passed away, he wasn't in attendance, nor there for me, through that. We'd made a pact, to stand by one another, as my stepdad's cancer struggles started in hs; his dad's illnesses were in hs, as well.
Then I met my exh. And I cut off, all communication. Not being my friend through my struggles was a huge part of the cutting ties. When I'd been more than a friend to him, through all of his. Visiting his dad in the hospital, during many stays, even being on the phone with his dad, about a day before his passing. I was part of the family. His dad, thought of me, like a daughter.
Saw his aunt, a couple years ago. She met my children. She didn't say much about her nephew.
There was a time, several years back, I tried, the whole fb thing with him. Someone, on his friends list, who married his best guy friend and best man, made some snide comment about something that happened in hs. I deleted him. Enough was enough.