Yobeth, help me understand. You knew when you volunteered that this would be an event where your T would likely be present. You knew that you would not want to be there is she was. You are uncomfortalbe about being there because she is well thought of? Why? Will people somehow think less of her if you are there? Or are you afraid that she will be involved in her own activities and not show you the attention that you wish she would (I will be standing in a corner alone you said). I would definately talk to her about this. There seems to be much more going on here than meets the eye. It seems to me that if you really don't want to be involved in community activities where your T might be present you just wouldn't have volunteered in the first place.