Have just got off the telephone with my partners father.......

He is now saying that he is in the hospital.....that his son has asked not to tell anyone where.....and he is in a difficult position in respecting his sons wishes. He said he saw him there on sunday.

I asked if he has been staying at friends like he said......he said no that his son told him he was ......and then his father told me he was.

He had in fact taken himself to GP and GP had admitted him and he had been there since.

So he isn't telling his parents the truth either.

I said that I did not understand how he had spoken to me quite logically and calmly on sunday and then all of a sudden he needed admitting. Or why he said that he loved me and baby and wanted to sort things out on monday and then didn't show up and left me thinking he wanted noting to do with us........and then I was left thinking that he was with friends and still wanted nothing to do with us.

His father said that he had said something about not being believed but his father did not know as he did not know what had led upto this.

I then told him about his work colleague and seeing him get into her car.....the mobile phone and knocking me over and my daughter seeing it all. Him hiding his mobile and keeping it in the car and not answering calls when I am around. Him arranging for the same colleague to collect him and drop off when she lived out of the way and declining me taking him and picking him up. I explained him being so consumed in getting his mobile off me that he knocked me flying backwards to the ground and my daughter had watched it all and had come running to help me up a his son had just tried to drive off in the car and then when that wasn't possible had walked away and that it had shocked me that he had seen me lying on the floor in pain and he had walked away. He thanked me for telling him my side of things........he said that his son had told him none of the details.

I said to him I may have been completely wrong.....I had told his son that but I had said without answers to my questions what could I do???? I was expecting his son to come give me those answers on monday and he hadn't bothered and what was I to think??

He said that when he had tried to broach things with his son on sunday by telling him that he had heard from me and that the scan had shown that the baby was ok that he had just broken down crying and that he could not even talk to him about everyday things gently without him breaking down.

I explained that I would and could quite easily like to take myself off somewhere to breakdown however I was having to take on the responsibilities of us both for my family and the baby and preparing for the baby in every way at the moment and it was all taking its toll on my health and that of the baby.

I explained that I was having to plan practically for the birth and his son not being there as he would not have any contact with me........I explained that I could be induced at 38 wks due to high risk pregnancy and that I was having to arrange someone to be with me as my mother is away abroad at that time and unable to be with me........I told him that I was assuming his son either couldn't or did not want to be there at the birth.......he said that he would try and discuss this with his son and would see how he was over next few days .....weeks etc to see if he could cope with these decisions.

I said that his son had been living with myself and my family for past two years and that he could have contacted us or come here monday and we would have helped him if he felt that he could not cope etc

Its sad that he felt he could not turn to his parents and tell them at the time or us.

Anyway I ended the call by saying that he could come here tomorrow at 3pm to collect his things .....I said that I had packed what I could.

That is all I can do now make alternative arrangements for the birth and support during this time and leave door open for him to be involved if or when he wants.

I will not contact them again now.....if they want to know anything they can contact me they know I maybe induced at 38 weeks. If their son wants to let me know where he is or to be involved then he can contact me.

I doubt I will hear from his parents or him again.

Sorry for rant but have had enough of all this now and need to take time out and start relaxing and enjoying what should be an exiting time.......sad thing is I have done everything possible to contact my partner and reassure him that if he was honest It would be ok .......about possible cheating .......reassure him that he is welcome to be a part of my life and that of his daughters..........sadly without contact and input from him thats all I can do x