No one can answer those questions except your mom really. To try and answer them with what I think about my own mom?

So it is safe to assume that my mom doesn't genuinely love me even though she goes through the motions of the idea of love?
I think my mom does actually love me. She really wanted children and works with them. But my mom doesn't go through the motions of it, and I don't have much real evidence towards it.

Does she realize or is aware that she is being abusive and cruel to me?
My mom certainly doesn't - or at least she denies it and will always deny it. I am pretty sure she's one of the people who don't believe that verbal and emotional abuse is a real thing. She views herself more as propogator of tough love.

Is she aware that she is purposely manipulating people to make them think that I am the one who is crazy?
I have no idea with my mom. She definitely does it and I can't imagine how she is unaware of the fact that she's literally lying her face off to make herself appear to be the victim. But she will deny everything, so how can I ever know?

Does she realize at all that her covert tactics are purely evil even though she might not realize that she isn't normal?
If someone thinks they're normal, they will never think they're evil. I don't think my mom is evil. I think she is ill and that she was neglectful and caused a lot more harm than good. But evil? No. My mom really wants to be a "good mom" and she really thinks that she is.

Some people find that going cold-turkey and having no-contact is the way to go (which is really what is needed in some situations! I've been relatively lucky). I don't know if going no-contact and then going back in contact will really be very successful - there will be a really big struggle for power during the no-contact and then when you go back to some contact... it'll be like she won, in her eyes.

I opted for low-contact, because as I said... I do think that my mom DOES care, she just has no real empathy and doesn't demonstrate it at all. She's way too absorbed with herself and with maintaining her image to be able to have a genuine relationship. Which is funny, because if she didn't have her image to adhere to she probably would have been able to have a more real relationship with me - but she doesn't have the capabilities for more than a very shallow level of empathy I think. ((I get confused when talking about this, and I think my mom has more narcisstic traits and may not be a full-blown NPD)). So I went low-contact immediately and have mainted that - I did it while I was in highschool and still living at home. I found it a lot easier and there hasn't been nearly as much of a struggle because she isn't fully aware of how much I keep to myself.