Oh, it's totally normal to be angry and upset. Who wouldn't feel angry and upset to know that their life has been massively affected as the result of someone else's illness? Especially when that illness leads to neglect and abuse - and a total denial that there is even an illness.

Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers

That site was a shocker for me when I was reading it. I actually printed it off and highlighted it with parts that fit just my mom, parts that fit just my brother, and parts that fit both. I had almost the whole thing highlighted!!

It made me feel validated... but also really sad and angry. And then I still felt the self-doubt that's always been present because I always get told that I'm imagining or exagerrating.