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Originally Posted by VenusHalley
I don't think the writer is abusive. I noticed that some people here mistake honesty with "abuse". Like you you only be smooshy huggy supporty or abusive and critical and no middle way.
I do think that "ability to laugh at yourself" is one important tool. And ability to self-reflect.
so they article may not be "oh poor you chemically imbalanced thing, there is nothing you can do for yourself, but at least it is not your fault, pity pity pity, hugs and unicorns pooping rainbow puppies", but I don't think it's *abusive*, Not everything that point out a personal weakness of somebody is abusive. Sometimes it's... the truth.
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Venus, please keep in mind that you "are" posting this in a site where people "genuinely" struggle with different types of Mental Illnesses.
I don't think it was "wrong" to post this article, however, it is important to recognize that the reaction of some members will see this article as too general and not really considering "real psychological challenges".
While you clearly do not appreciate "hugs" and certain kinds of validations expressed to some of the members reaching out for support, it doesn't mean these hugs and expressions of validations are "not important or don't actually help some of the members who struggle".
Making fun of Hugs and Unicorns (by the way my avatar is not a unicorn) and rainbows showering puppy dogs, you are actually picking apart something that some individuals have been deprived of when they have needed it and may still truly need a "caring and comforting and sympathetic" presence to help them in their healing. And this is "not" just "my" opinion either, there are many studies that have recognized this "very human need" and how with the "right" caring support, an individual can make considerable gains in their recovery.
Do "some" people use these excuses to escape? Yes, however, it is important to dig deeper and find out "why" some individuals turn to these different ways of escaping too.
OE