Having been on the "moving on" end of a failed marriage, my gut feeling is to tell you to "let go and let God". You gain strength by practicing self control. It's obvious your wife wants/needs a separate life from you now... for whatever reason.

Personally, I get triggered, very impatient and feel suffocated, if I say "no" to a person and they don't stop. It's a breach of my personal boundaries. To me, it's obvious your wife has moved on. Let it go, Timber. Set her free. If she's yours, she'll come back. If she doesn't, she was never yours to begin with.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.