My T tells me this too on occasion or she'll say, "be an archeologist - keep digging deeper".

I'm trying to imagine what it would be like if I were a T and a client drove by my house. Maybe it would depend on which client it is. I'm pretty sure that if I knew the address of where my T lives, I would not be able to resist checking it out. As I ask myself, why?, I'm not quite sure - maybe to feel more connected?

And I have googled my T and there is NOTHING on the web. If she had FB or other trails online, I am also pretty sure I would be checking them out.

I'm wondering, Rainbow, if this curiosity about your T could be considered more normal than you're allowing yourself to feel. Or do you believe you'd push the boundaries even more if you could - in other words - drive by house regularly, continue to look at her family's FB pages, etc.

I guess only you know the level of obsession involved. But I still wonder if part of your behavior could be considered ordinary curiosity?