Well, I think referrals can only go so far. It's all about the relationship, in my opinion, and even if our T's think another T is a 'good fit', we still may not resonate with that person.

I found that out when my T recommended another T in her office who I could see while she was gone a month. It was terrible. We just did not connect.

If you think that that mismatch occurred just cuz she wasn't MY T, I have also gone to couples' counseling and I loved that T.

So, again, referral might be a good first step, but then you'll need to check out your own connection with new T.