Hi again internet peeps!

These past couple of months since the separation have been difficult but I've been slowly and surely making positive changes in my life since my wife left.

I'm doing classes of interesting stuff, making new friends....basically building my own life. I'm enjoying life again and generally happy most days (or generally most of the days with periodically depressed hours from time to time).

There is however one issue that's been on my mind quite heavily from the beginning. My wife has been spending a lot of time with a lesbian. I mean a lot.

On Facebook pics, this woman is never more than 2 feet away. On several occasions, she told me she was going to do something with several friends, only to find out it was just her. I also recently heard complaints from the kids that when they're at her place, this woman is always around and they're tired of seeing her.

Keep in mind I've never asked them about her and have very strictly kept to myself about this issue. Only my therapist knows about my suspicions and she told me initially that I shouldn't confront her about this because I had to work on my own life before I think about her.

The problem is that this issue isn't going away in my head. I suspect that something is going on that she doesn't want me to know. I'm willing to play dumb and pretend it's not sexual but there's something she feels she needs to hide...

If you were me, would you bring it up? I don't want to go full attack and confront, I just need to stop wondering...I'm tired of wondering and feeling like I'm ignoring the obvious.