I can appreciate that it's difficult. It took until this past half year for my wife (we've been together 14 years) to stop with the 'tough love' routine when I stumbled (with her then being confused with it triggering some anxiety attack that would signal a big pointless argument) to actually listening to what I was saying and do some research into depression.

I don't think people who haven't been there really get something is seriously wrong unless things come to a head (which is a very dangerous place to be for us obviously and I'm not suggesting succumbing to giving up )

That's probably why a lot of us have to internalise it to a large degree and try to find coping mechanisms as well as getting support (however good that might be) from 'trained' professionals.

Even when lay people do try to help, we have to be tolerant when they go off the mark. Both my mum and my wife bombard me with questionable research that I should try and then might get better - to do each and everyone would result in me not eating, drinking or having anything to do with technological appliances so I have to try and be patient and sift through what 'might' be an idea for cutting back on... but yeah.

Do keep posting here... pm anyone that you're comfortable with and just talk. Sometimes, being able to get it out in written form can release the pressure. It does for me