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Originally Posted by A Red Panda
I think for at least some of us, it helps build trust when we know the thereapist a bit more personally. Like... I have a hard time sharing how I feel about things. Facts I can tell anyone really. But how I feel about those facts? That's really hard for me.
I don't trust my T and I don't really trust anyone. So.. knowing at least a few things about him makes it easier to expose myself that much to him, because it at least knocks him back down to "normal guy" instead of "guy who has this much power over me" -- even though I know he doesn't have any actual power, he does get to see me when I'm a lot more vulnerable than normal.
So for me? It totally helps knowing that he was a total jerkface with a joke he played on my friend/coworker! From it, I know that yeah, he really CAN be that idiotic in real life and not just with me  At the same time, I've heard his wife is the nicest person ever so he really can't ACTUALLY be a jerk or she wouldn't be with him. I guess for me, that helps a lot. When I get annoyed with him I at least know that he hasn't done anything as utterly stupid as the joke he pulled on my friend!
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BINGO, it is all about knowing certain things about people to make them Three-Dimensional.
Also this extends beyond your Therapist to other people IMO, in fact (since I am listening to one of my favorite online stations right now) I always love knowing little bits of information about the DJs on the online station which I listen to (which they often share on the air) such as their favorite bands, TV shows, and what sports teams they like (the ones who follow sports) and this can come in handy since I sometimes see them at concerts that the station sponsors and usually spend a few minutes talking to them about those things when I see them.