That sounds terrible to me. If there such fundamental conflict, I would get referred out. Not to say you should, just saying how I would react.

I want transformation from therapy. First though I want safety and to develop who I am. The transformation comes from letting go of the old things that define me but aren't really what I want. I like deep work. I'm not interested in advice or behavior modification. I want to be really understood so I can understand myself better and feel strong in that. My therapist does this. It's a good match.