I have a new theory in regards to why, perhaps I am not in an abusive relationship.
If I answered back to my husband when he gets an attitude (like my sister does with her husband) perhaps, he would learn I am fisty if I need to and he would quit.
I am afraid of answering back most of the time, because of how he reacts but he knows that too, and uses it to his advantage. Also, I think I don't do it because I am an expert at "conflict avoiding" so, maybe it is my attitude what has caused me to be where I am.
I have therapy today, I can't wait to tell my T what I think.

gab