Hi Dreamgirl - your post made me sad. You sound very alone in this -- I'm sorry (but please know that you have us here at PC).

I don't know why your husband lied to you, but if you are determined to make the marriage work, then one thing you should probably do is stop pushing him about his ex-g/f. Let his past remain in his past, and instead, focus on what you both can do to make your relationship stronger for the future. He can't change his past, and it's not going to help your relationship if you know the details, so it's probably better to try to let it go.

Can you talk to your parents or his about how to make your marriage better? Do they have any advice?