Hi guys, I'm a new poster. I've never posted on a forum before, so sorry if I do something wrong! I'm not sure if this is the right forum

I'm female, 21 years old, and graduating college soon.

I was abused when I was very young by a friend of my family and have PTSD and a distrust of men as a result. I never told anyone about the abuse, apart from a college counselor and the psychiatrist she sent me to, who I stopped seeing because it was too expensive, and I didn't feel like I was making progress. I've had 2 boyfriends, both short-term relationships, both ending not well because the guys were controlling and aggressive. My family never knew about them because I didn't consider them serious relationships, and my friends only knew after the fact because I'm very private.

I don't date at all anymore. When guys ask me out, I tell them I'm too busy. When my family/friends ask me why I don't have a boyfriend, I say I'm too busy. The thing is, almost everyone I'm closest to is in a relationship. My roommates, my family members, my coworkers, everyone basically. A few of them recently got significant others, and I think that's why everyone keeps wondering why I'm not dating. They aren't accepting the "I'm too busy" excuse anymore. I think because many of them are in the same boat and still manage to date. My sister told me that most of my family thinks I'm a closeted lesbian, which I'm not. Telling them the real reason is out of the question for me. I'm very private, still not very trusting, and I would hate for anyone to find out.

I know it shouldn't bother me what people think, and it's really none of their business, but they keep asking, and they want to set me up, and I don't know how to get them to stop. I know they're starting to think there's something wrong with me, and I don't want anyone to guess the truth. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone has been in the same boat, and were successful in getting people of their backs?