Your therapist obviously really gets it and cares. It sounds like she is trying to get you to take in an image of her so that you feel reassured when things get tough. That is a very good thing to do. If we have trouble self-soothing then using the kindness of the therapist is exactly what we need. And I agree that some put too much emphasis on self-sufficiency. None of really are. It's a myth. We are all interdependent and at times of trouble dependent. There is nothing wrong with that. It is just human.