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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
I don't see anything inappropriate with measured self-disclosure by a T when guided by the needs of the client and the therapeutic situation. And I think a client has the freedom to ask any question of a T. But I think the effect on the relationship which results from that is very different from digging up info on a T in order to surreptitiously encourage disclosure. Why not simply ask the questions you want to ask, thereby giving the T the choice of what and how to self-disclose? It seems to me that would encourage a far more open and honest exchange, show greater respect for boundaries, and probably result in more comfort and security in the relationship.
It may be a perfectly understandable feeling, but the focussed and secretive intent on finding out personal info about a T is indicative of deeper needs, and therapy is the place to explore such needs, rather than indulge them without examination.
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Well here is what I remember doing, I can remember when we were talking about winter sports and the like I asked her "so are you a snowboarding fan" (even though I had previously known that), then when I was talking about the city where me and the rest of my family used to accompany my dad when he had conferences there I said something along the lines of "something tells me you know a lot about that city" and then she told me that she did indeed grow up there. It's all about trying to slide it in without being too obvious.