I did use some you statements- I tried to focus on "I" statements, but it was probably... I dunno 50/50, definitely mixed, I was absolutely not communicating at my best. I was scared and panicked and mad and messy. I did speak harshly to her. I absolutely did. I tried to be productive, and honestly, I didn't really succeed, I was upset and off course probably and accusatory. Definitely.

I could absolutely do better on that, and I thank you for reminding me. I knew she must feel... criticized, and tried to address it, but that didn't work out that time.

By the end, all of her statements to me were "you" statements.

I wish she would have just told me to calm down and it would be alright. I am really really really bad at calming down, and I keep trying SO hard to get better at it, and I am in real life, getting better with my daughter and my family, but... I lost it.

I can't calm down anymore. My husband said he was going to kill himself the other day, and our marriage is rocky, and my daughter's acting out, and the work is very hard right now. She knows every ugly disturbing thing about me. I'm working 60 hours a week to support us and going to college full time to get a better job, my husband has heart failure, we have a mountain of bills, including therapy, and I got triggered bad during a fight the other day and couldn't breathe right for four days, and ok, that is me making excuses maybe. I mostly felt a little in over my head in life before therapy, then I started to feel better, and right now, I feel like I'm just drowning. And I screwed up with my best and kind of only ally.