Some people need more space, but others need closeness. The problem is that I just don't think there is an absolute rule. It is curious to me how therapists set these boundaries. Some might have been taught that during their training. There might be a slightly enlarged sense of what is "professional." Then again some therapists might decide based on having had bad experiences.

What I also don't understand is how people come to define boundaries. Is it based on their perception of what therapy should be like? Is it a question of personal style and preference?

I guess I don't view therapy as a business relationship, which is why I don't really like the word "client" and actually prefer the word "patient," which means at root someone who suffers. I'm not entering a contract when I go to session. I'm not at a meeting. I'm there to relate to someone who can understand me.