It seems to me that if you were the only one that stepped up to take care of your mother, then you are the one who should profit from the house. Avoiding the unpleasant situation of dealing with a parent that has a serious condition and then appearing with their hands out is extremely rude. If your siblings are doing fine, able to pay their bills, why should you give them money that you need. A new riding mower is nice, but you can't live in it.

If you haven't already, you may want to consider selling the vacation house. On the practical side of things, it is a luxury and if you are up to your ears in bills, not one that you can afford.

Not knowing your siblings, having a sit down with them and pointing out why you are upset at their behavior may be something to think about. It seems rather childish to be trying to get money from you when they know that you are in financial trouble.

Your workplace probably wouldn't bother you so much if you were not dealing with the other issue. Unfortunately, when parents die and there are multiple siblings, often times there are arguments and wounded feelings. They need to understand the problems you are having without it turning into a shouting match. I'm sorry this hit around the holidays. That just makes it seem worse.

Sam2