" Complaining about the boundaries someone else has set and attempting to stomp on those boundaries or break them down shows a fundamental disrespect for the other person, in my opinion."

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I think we can complain - we might not bump up against a boundary until some time has passed in our therapy. We start wanting or needing out of session contact, for example. We complain, we change ts or we learn to live with it. I don't see anyone here "attempting to stomp on boundaries or break them down" - and if I did, I would invite them to be curious about it - not command them to stop. Stringcheese hit a boundary problem with her t and everybody here tried to talk her thru it and support her. I guess that's what is puzzling to me about this whole debate - are we talking about what actually happened, or worst possible theoretical case scenario? People seem to be extrapolating from "one time" to "you always" - which we all know isnt allowed in fighting anymore!