He was not responsive, was withholding, didn't let me know where he was at any given time when it seemed important to have that "safe harbor." This was his approach but it also had to do with strict boundaries. And they were not only negative; they made it feel like there was no safety. In the end it did me more harm than good.

I realize this depends on what you are going in for. In my case I needed much more flexibility and openness. And a willingness to bend a little to my specifics and not just adhere to principles.

I think good therapists all recognize that regardless of what they've been taught or believe, that they modify according to the patient if they want to really be dedicated to helping that particular person. And much literature supports this.