actually, i'll always take the boss's side or the person in authority, whether they're related to me or not, because people are untrustworthy and i can't depend on anybody to back me up. so why must i back up someone who may never back me up? every person for his/herself. and it's not so much as being on that person's side or not, as leaving that person to fend for themselves. i wasn't taking her side, so much as i was taking nobody's side. i'm not going to back up my coworker or anybody, by my parents and brother, when nobody is to be trusted to return the favour. my first post also applies to situations in general too, i over-think almost anything that went wrong, or that i did or said wrong and it's like my thoughts wouldn't leave me alone! i've always been nice, but still, it's like i'm doomed, like nothing goes my way. i might as well be a mean person with an attitude since everything seems to be in the favour of those people, and everybody seems to like those people.