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Originally Posted by Petra5ed
I am too embarrassed to push boundaries, and I also don't want to annoy my T. Personally, I don't like showing neediness even though I often feel needy. I feel like an inconvenience and a burden enough with the hour sessions. Unless Googeling counts, I haven't broken any boundaries on account of that probably.
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It doesn't always happen on purpose. In fact I think more often than not it's by accident. Because therapy is so different from other relationships, so clients don't know how to navigate it. Like when I had a T, I once asked him about his kids but he said he can't mention his personal life. It was so weird for me and I felt both angry and embarrassed. It felt like such a natural question. Nowhere else would anybody not answer that question. Heck, many people volunteer that kind of info. But I quickly realized this was not a social occasion. He was not my friend. He was getting paid to help me get better and feel less anxious and depressed. That's all. But that's something I had to learn. I still did not like it, but eventually I stopped taking these things personally.