I also grew up in a semi-perfect family and had "good" parents that were really "good" to me. They always took care of me, never hurt me, and told me they loved me but were always pretty cold and distant. I think your parents may have had no ill intentions, but they just were not capable of giving you the warmth that a child needs. It's really ****** and it's no way for a child to be raised, even if they supply you with nice cloths and send you to a good school and feed you healthy food, etc.

I think having cold parents (especially primary caregiver) can have bad mental health results. I just left Thanksgiving dinner and hugged my mom goodbye. I know she loves me the best way she knows how. I'm still a ****ing emotional wreck in the end but I know she did her best, even if it wasn't good enough...

I'm not trying to pretend like your situation was just like mine and maybe my experience doesn't apply here, but I hope it was helpful.