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Originally Posted by Rosondo
It doesn't always happen on purpose. In fact I think more often than not it's by accident. Because therapy is so different from other relationships, so clients don't know how to navigate it. Like when I had a T, I once asked him about his kids but he said he can't mention his personal life. It was so weird for me and I felt both angry and embarrassed. It felt like such a natural question. Nowhere else would anybody not answer that question. Heck, many people volunteer that kind of info. But I quickly realized this was not a social occasion. He was not my friend. He was getting paid to help me get better and feel less anxious and depressed. That's all. But that's something I had to learn. I still did not like it, but eventually I stopped taking these things personally.
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Sorry you had that experience. I can understand a T not wanting to discuss kids in detail. But asking your T if they have any and how old they are is not going to far. How do you not answer and then not feel like a jerk? Some T's who have not so great social skills need to consider how some of the things they say would sound/feel to the person on the receiving end.