hey mon, sorry to hear of this, it sounds like she is a great friend and in a bad place herself right now, maybe try to be there for her while she is going through it if possible.
i personally have been there and sometimes all we can do is try and do our best self care (from both perspectives)
for what its worth i dont think you are "one of them" you a great guy and imo she needs a little time to get through her issues right now is all