Just an update - I have posted under another new thread - Nervous Breakdown if you want to read......

Have found out that my partner was not staying at friends.....he had taken himself to the GP and GP had sent him into a mental health hospital as he has had a nervous breakdown.

This would have been over 2 weeks ago now.....his father went to see him last sunday and he said that he is so poorly.......he said to him that I had a scan and that the baby was ok and his son just broke down.......his father couldn't talk to him anymore about me.

His father came to my home yesterday and I asked him lots of questions.......It seems they knew about their son when his mother let me go up to check his flat.....if you remember my posting I was really concerned as the last thing he had said to me on the sunday was the he loved me and the baby and was going to come and talk to me on the monday.

He didn't so I telephoned his mother by the wednesday and when I didn't find him in his flat I asked her should we contact the police. She said NO ....well the next day she said they had heard from him he was staying with friends.

So I am left thinking he is with friends etc and thinking he clearly didn't want to come see me and talk about things and that he is moving on .....wont contact me ....mobile switched off.....when really he is poorly in hospital....nervous breakdown.

Apparently this sunday when his dad went to visit him. My partner told him he could t3ell me he was in a hospital but not to say which one as he did not want people to know.

So his father came to pick up some things for him and his flat keys. I packed a case for him with stuff he would need for hospital and gave they flat keys. I have told his dad that he has too much stuff to put all in the case and I am not well enough to pack all that.

I sent a card with his things saying - Thinking of you - and a little verse basically saying - life is sometimes hard and that if he needed someone to listen then I am here.

I have asked his father to ask him if I could go see him. This is so difficult that there is just no contact between us......I am trying not to read anything into things now as I seem to be misreading situations as I don't have all the information.

Part of me is angry....I have been his next of kin for the past 2 years....caring for him etc and loving him.....he has seen very little of his parents I have tried to encourage him and now I am left in the dark and not able to see or talk to him

I am frustrated as if he had come on the Monday as planned then we could have talked and he could have said that he was poorly and I would have supported and helped him to get the help he needed and then he would not have felt so alone.

I feel guilty that I had accused him of seeing his work colleague however, from what I saw and him not giving me his mobile and then no contact and not getting together properly to talk ....what was I supposed to think........and you should be able to talk about things have an arguement and breakup and not feel that someone is at risk of mental illness.

He must have underlying mental health issues that needed addressing ......I feel so bad and guilty at the moment but like I say.......I still don't know that he wasn't cheating.....and that was why he couldn't come face me.....and that is why he has gone into crisis???

Like I say I am trying to not read into things......although I think maybe he did cheat.....or was having thoughts of doing so.....and that he made up his mind on the monday that he wanted out of the relationship and that he has chosen this path for himself and just requires support and help from mental health services to move on.

Hence why he won't see me still............he is moving on????