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Originally Posted by skeksi
A good worry. I don't actually have any knowledge on this, but I would assume that in family therapy, the emphasis would not be on processing the past together overly much--I would guess that the goal would be to find out why your relationship has this stuck point and find a way to refocus it on the present. Sure, you'll address the past, but I don't think it would be processing in the same way as occurs in individual therapy.
You're right--talk about your thoughts with your individual counselor. I can't stress how great it is that you are wanting to take this step with your mom. I hope she's willing to go with you and help your relationship grow. I wish I had the courage to approach family therapy with my mom.
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I think part of the reason I'm focusing on the processing piece is because it seems to come whether we really try or not. Our relationship is not what worries me because I think it has more to do with individual barriers than the way we interact. I mean, it also has a lot to do with interactions, but mostly it comes from us both being stuck in our own gunk. I think there's a validation and release I'm processing together, but I may be confused about what I want from family therapy.
I don't think I would put much effort into it if we did not live together again...
Useless me, I'm sorry it has not been a helpful experience for you. I hope things can work out with what it is you are struggling with. I personally find therapy helpful, but I know not everyone feels that way (my mom is one of those people). I guess it all depends on what you need, and the therapist you end up working with. ..