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Originally Posted by PeachCream22
Hi uhm, this is just an update on what happened. I blocked my ex on facebook and hotmail, and now he sent me a text message, asking whether I received any of his emails.
I don't want to come off being the bad person...but i just couldn't stand him anymore. And I didn't tell him that. I just blocked him without any warning, when he thought we were getting along fine. But I couldn't tell him that, I've tried, he wouldn't understand; he'd either say "sorry i was in your life and caused you such pain" in a hurtful manner or "we can work this out and be friends". I CAN'T DO IT. that's why i did everything without saying anything.
Any advice on how to deal with the situation here?
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Well good you blocked him.
How to deal with his obvious cluelessness? I don't know your situation but if you have to deal with him, you should be upfront and honest. That does not mean be mean and derogatory but just tell him that it's inappropriate for you to keep in touch anymore and you're not comfortable with it. Put it out on the table. If he doesn't like that and keeps it up, the ball is in your park, at least he knows if you block him completely or ignore him, why it is. Also I don't believe in being misleading. Why even bother putting up the facade that everything is ok? That's just unfair to him, no matter what you think of him. You're stringing him along even if he's not thinking you'll get back together, he thinks you're friends and you're not.
If you have no reason to keep up with an ex, like I do because of my children, there is no reason to even reply.
YOu can block texts too, it's just a more difficult thing to do. Call your phone company. That's my suggestion, seriously if you hate him that much why would you care to keep things going?