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Old Nov 29, 2013, 02:17 PM
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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006 View Post
The other thing is, "To me they are replaceable". Is that horrible? I can't judge you on that but, I will say until the one that isn't so replaceable is in front of you, you should not be marrying her. That to me, says you don't understand the implications of marriage at all. Harsh? yes but am I really wrong? If one marries someone with the vows "til death" and "in sickness and health" but in their mind sees the bride as "replaceable" it's a contradiction in terms, if you ask me.
I agree with the other posts. It is too soon to be getting married again and you are having doubts which is a red flag.

I have to agree with s4ndm4n, personally I was bothered when I read that you think women are replaceable in marriage.

I love my husband very much but if I could do things over again I would not have had the wedding until I fixed me. It is so much easier to deal with therapy etc when you are not trying to coordinate 3 schedules. I also would not have had my son when I did, I would have waited until I was functioning better.
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