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Old Nov 29, 2013, 03:11 PM
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Originally Posted by archipelago View Post
I'm curious but don't want to pry or raise a difficult issue. You say some things about how self-disclosure can be harmful, and yet it's unclear how that worked for you. You don't have to answer. I was just wondering. Like I have said before, perhaps on another thread, self-disclosure is quite complex and needs to be very thoughtful most of the time. My shrink uses it well and often, but he learned that I can handle things. Whereas I'm almost certain that he doesn't do it with everyone or even with many. He is an MD so he has to maintain a certain style for his patients who expect that in a doctor.
I discussed it a bit in this thread http://forums.psychcentral.com/psych...ing-out-t.html

I'm disappointed in myself. The clues about T's personal life - where she grew up, where she attended grad school, what hobbies she likes, etc. were happily consumed by me - I loved knowing those pieces of her life.

That she's facing challenges now that seem much worse than my own challenges might make it more difficult for me to feel free to take myself seriously. It was my last session that she self-disclosed almost 2 weeks ago. She took a week off to deal with her own issue and so I won't see her until next week where I will be faced with how to conduct my own therapy.