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Originally Posted by BuckNut1
Thank you for your responses.
I can turn my "love" off like a light switch. I don't know why, but once a woman does something, anything to make me angry I no longer love her. My ex wife used to say that I had no empathy for her. And perhaps I did not, for I felt she also had no empathy for me. When I heard her crying about how I had hurt her, it did not touch me once the "light switch" had been turned off. I hope this makes sense... to someone.
I went from being absolutely in love with her to hating her.
My fiancee does not make me angry at all.. I have not felt the niggling doubts that I had about my ex wife. My ex wife would stand up to me, would tell me I was wrong, would make me so very angry.
I keep thinking that the fact I can't forget my ex wife is because she made me so angry. Now I'm wondering if it isn't something else, and I'm using my fiancee to replace her.
I'm very confused, I did not expect to be at this place in my life at this age.
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"Love" is something that means a lot more than an emotion or feeling toward someone. Love encompasses far more than anything you would be able to turn off like a switch. That is to say what you're referring to is a feeling toward her or anyone. Love is such a big thing. It's not just how you feel in fact it's not even just what you do. It's not that you do things for someone because of how you feel even. Its when you can do good things for someone, take care of them and be with them - when you're not feeling those wonderful feelings. THAT, my friend, is love. The feelings are nice to have, romance, infatuation, euphoria... all of it, but it is fleeting. As long as you base your condition of staying with a girl on the feeling remaining you will continue to break relationships because inevitably, it will subside, if only temporarily.