If you read my other post you'll see that I believe a client has the right and freedom to ask a T anything. This isn't about protecting the T, but rather respecting the T and the authenticity of the relationship by not surreptitiously finding info to then plan to drop into conversation as a way of manipulating disclosures.

With some Ts and clients, it would not create an issue. But the OP has discussed on a number of threads his difficulties with boundaries and disclosure and how they define the relationship for him. My point has been why the subterfuge? Why not simply ask the questions openly which then could lead to the discussion you're talking about.