Kudos to you and your maturity. I wish more people your (well, "our" I guess is more appropriate if you're in college, but you get the point) held it with the gravity that you do. I find that admirable.

That said, I did lose track of what precisely your question was, so do forgive me for that. I'll sort of address everything I can think of in the hopes that I'll hit the nail on the head somewhere.

As far as your parents go, you two are consenting, legal adults, which in one regard sort of ends the debate right there, if push came to shove. That said, I again find it admirable that you respect their opinions enough to incorporate that into your relationship. Speaking frankly, they'd be, with all due respect, rather dense if they didn't put two and two together and sort of naturally assume sexual attraction is at least present among you two...sort of comes with the whole "dating" thing. You, of course, know them better than I, but were they to find out, I would hardly imagine it as that much of a blindside. They aren't, I don't suspect, going to be totally thrilled with the idea...there's the natural parental concerns of "what ifs," if you take my meaning, the simple fact their daughter is having sex (as an older brother, I get upset when my younger sister, who is six, goes through that puppy love stage in elementary school. Imagine the same principle on a larger scale), and the concern you may end up hurt. That all said, if you are able to articulate your point as well to them as you were to us on what you think about relationships, then I can't see much point of objection.

Between you two, it sounds like there is a mutual anxiety over getting caught or "found out" by your parents. Is that correct? If that's the case, you sound like a younger version of myself fearing the omnipotent parent. And you mention the sexual tension...without me trying to pry, if you've already made the proverbial leap, what's the hold up? I would need a little more information in that regard before I could offer anything less general. However, that said, you both, based on what you've said, seem to hold relationships, sex, and what you two have in a high degree of respect. Nothing has changed overnight after this. You two shared a special, meaningful moment with one another that you're both giving a great degree of reverence. Again, admirable. But this isn't a total paradigm shift...cherish what you had and hold it in line to your beliefs, and continue your relationship as you would with this held into consideration.

Going back to the parents, you seem, based on what I could infer from your post, that you seem to intent on telling them, which I can, to an extent, see...you rather sound like myself in that regard. However, and I don't say this with any deceptive intentions, it's not strictly necessary that you report on your sex life to your parents. Say, for example, you don't. You two get married in the ceremonial sense. Do you think they'd expect to know then? What, then, is your obligation to tell them if you considered yourself married in the more spiritual sense? This is your relationship, your privacy. Just my two cents in that regard. As long as you two keep what I'm gathering as a mature attitude on the matter and continue to practice safely (an old friend of mine here used to be able to quote the statistical probability of anything...er, "surprising"....happening under condoms and birth control to the number. I can't, but it's near statistically insignificant), I'd say your fine.

Sorry for the rather broad reply, but I couldn't quite pin down what you specifically were seeking advice for. I'd be happy to give it another go later on.

Kudos to you both for what you have, and God bless you both.

Hugs,
Harley