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Originally Posted by BLUEDOVE
Oh,I know THIS behavior! It is 'Pleasing Behavior'.
And I cannot tell you how much pain and misery it
caused me all my life. It stems from our childhood
when we tried to gain love+affection from our
parents,and mostly not getting it! Sooo,we carry
this into our adult life making the world at large
surrogate parents (please,like me,look how good I
am doing you favors). It is a degrading way to exist. Even after I read this in black+white,the
compulsion was so powerful I was STILL doing it!
The solution? Get some books on self-esteem and
assertiveness, and right now,you could write out
particular incidents of it,and asking self why,and is
it worth it. People SEE this behavior as you thinking so little of yourself,that THEY also think
so little of you! You are worth more than you think,
please make self DO something to eradicate it.
Deepest Respect,
BLUEDOVE
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but i've always had a close and good relationship with my parents, and i still do. they've always been loving and supporting, the best parents i could ever ask for, really. but i do have a pleasing nature, i think. i always want to please everybody, always want to get along well with everybody, kind of want everybody to like me, always agreeing with people so that they do not get pissed. but it's tiring and frustrating sometimes
