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Originally Posted by healingme4me
^^^on that note: I'll tell you, what I know deep down, my therapist would tell me, if having concerns with any relationship. You need to bring this up! You need to talk about it. You cannot sweep it under the rug, you cannot back burner it.
Can say, ""listen, I really like you. I'd like to get to know you more, spend more time with you(what ever it is, that you'd like to see from this friendship), it's just that I 'need' to have a little more balance in this equation. I'd like to hear from you, I'd like for you to initiate as close to evenly, as possible. What are your thoughts?""
That removes, bringing your insecurities to the forefront. Yet, it expresses that you have needs that need to be addressed. And from there, see, how he responds, and from there, you can make a more educated, informed decision, about him and his intentions.
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Isn't it a bit late now? I know there was also an instance that he said something that hurt my feelings (without meaning to, I'm just really sensitive about certain things) and it's been bothering me since. It led to "punishment" self-harm (again, I'm not blaming him or saying it's fault, as it isn't, just stating how things are). I can't talk about it now.
And about this, it's been more than a week since I've talked to him, it just seems unfair to come out of the blue with such a strong statement. I mean, I will have to interact with him again on some level, I really don't want this to turn into a fight.
Besides, he has had to sacrifice what he wants already, so in a way, this kind of seems fair.