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Originally Posted by Aventurine
I wouldn't let it break your heart.. No need. We all have different bits of coloured cellophane over our eyes and our perceptions vary.
I had a boyfriend who only said "love you" or at times "ditto". But I knew he loved me, I understand that by adding the "I" it personalises it, but I knew he loved me all the same.
I also had an ex who added "I love you" onto everything, I mean everything.. and he turned out to not really love me at all. So try not to read too much into it. (hahaha another time where I can take my own advice).. I know I read into stuff like that all the time, I would put an xo and I would get only an x back...I would even go as far as back through all the messages and count how many x's I have been given over the course of a few days.. hmmm.. crazy!..It can be really frustrating, I know.  |
See, I don't say it all the time to everything, but I also am always afraid I'm letting people think I don't love them when I don't tell them... For me, "I love you" means something different for each person.. It's not reserved for family or relationships, as you can love your friends as well... And when I get close enough to someone to say "I love you," I usually write a letter or send an email or something that explains exactly what I mean by "I love you" when I say it to them.... For me that helps reduce the opportunity for misinterpretation...
I have done the same thing, where I go back and see how long ago it's been since I got an "I love you" and not just "love you" or "love ya".... It always makes me feel worse though... I know I shouldn't look into it, and I should just accept the fact that I know she loves me and cares about me, but with all of my fears of abandonment, I can't just be okay with it... And it's hard, because we've even had conversations about her comfort level with how many times I say it, so I'm already trying to hold back a lot, and when the "few" times I do say it, she doesn't say it back, it's really frustrating.... I've found myself only saying "love you" back in hopes that it will hurt her as much as it hurts me, but then it never ever does, because I'm the only one who cares about the difference in "love you" and "I love you"....